Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Why did you kill me, mother?

Abortion is not something to be proud of. Abortion is not the best thing that can happen to a woman, no matter whether she treats it as a common medical procedure or a sinful action that kills an innocent life inside her.

Abortion is a social phenomenon. It is very simple to accuse women of this problem, although it is the society that should carry responsibility for it. One can dwell upon the ethics of abortions, about women destroying their own lives, about problems with the public morality, etc. However, nothing can cancel the right of a woman to take her decision, to receive high-quality medical and psychological aid and become a happy person in the future.

Most of those pro-life groups may come up with their objections here. They remind women of fire and brimstone and sufferings of unborn children destined to be slaughtered in the mother’s womb. They distribute anti-abortion leaflets with slogans like “Why did you kill me, mother?” All of that is apparently done to make a woman suffer after she decides to terminate her pregnancy.

When an 18-year-old attempts to commit suicide a week after her abortion, those who whispered “murderer” to her at hospital and showed her pictures of aborted fetuses do not feel any responsibility at all. Such incidents, when young women commit suicide being unable to cope with their post-abortion tortures, are rather frequent.

It goes without saying that abortion is evil. It obviously affects the woman’s health and her ability to become a mother in the future. However, if abortion happens, a woman should not be punished for it. She needs to be rendered all possible help to survive the sad experience with minimum of damage.

Women terminating their pregnancy may become infertile or have serious problems with the next pregnancy. The termination of pregnancy may lead to secondary infertility in 10 or 15 percent of cases.

An abortion may lead to a whole bouquet of diseases. Like any other surgery, an abortion can be dangerous. No one can be insured against inflammations, hemorrhage or other complications.
The termination of pregnancy may result in the termination of a family. An abortion may often become a consequence of family problems. It is a very serious test of relationships, although the birth of a baby or any other serious changes in life could become a similar test for a family.

No one can guarantee you that you will never regret any of your decisions. This is a risk of freedom; this is a matter of responsibility for everyone. In addition, if a woman is certain that she has committed a crime, which she is supposed to be punished for, she is perfectly capable of turning her life into hell.

Women make abortions to avoid the consequences of delivering unwanted babies. To put it in a nutshell, an abortion is a way of solving a social and moral problem. The wish of overcoming a serious problem can quickly be replaced with post-abortion depression, which can arise from the unbalance between women’s true desires and the social realm. Those women, who wanted to keep their baby, but were forced to have an abortion, suffer most at this point. If such a woman has difficulties with her next, wanted pregnancy, she suffers from the feeling of guilt again.

If you harbor strong feelings against abortions and would like to decrease their number, find a girl from a difficult family and tell her about contraception. Help a woman who decided to have an abortion just because she has no place to live and who already raises children. Of course, it is very easy to make “Why did you kill me, mother?” leaflets that will make young women suffer from the feeling of guilt. It is a lot easier to insult and humiliate those women and not even wonder why they decided to have an abortion.

Judge not, that ye be not judged.